The Inspiration Place

Posts Tagged ‘Confidence’

There is a perhaps overly-simple definition that describes the primary difference between negative and positive feelings. It states that negative feelings yield negative results and positive feelings yield positive results. If this is true, and it does appear to be so, then positive thinking should yield positive results and negative thinking the converse. Thus, the value of positive thinking becomes apparent.

Negative thinking throws up barriers between you and others; stops you from trying new things, blocks your success in business and personal relationships and, perhaps most important, makes you unpleasant to be around. It also makes you look at things from a pessimistic perspective. These thoughts come from fear, uneasiness, apathy, and self talk filled with negative expressions like I can’t, I won’t, I shouldn’t, Why should I care, I’m a loser, I look terrible and many more. The cure comes from positive thinking but it doesn’t always come easily after years and years of negative thinking habits. The easiest thing would be to never start thinking negatively in the first place. However, if that were the case, you’d never be reading this article.

Positive thinking opens the doors which are closed to negative thinkers. It gives you the confidence to try new things, take advantage of business opportunities, make personal relationships more rewarding and makes you a nicer person to be around. You tend to look at things from an optimistic point of view and are characterized by self talk with words like I can, I will, I should, I care, I’m a winner, I look good today and others. People with this frame of mind constantly think about the possibilities of growth, getting ahead, succeeding and solving challenges. They work to build good relationships and sustain them over time. Perhaps most important, they ‘like’ themselves, admit weaknesses and find positive solutions to problems rather than throwing up their hands in despair.

Predominantly negative thinkers who are committed to changing their way of looking at things, have to learn how to focus on positive thoughts and attitudes and to act on them. They must also stop giving themselves excuses as to why things won’t work, can’t be done, or are beyond their abilities, and begin taking some positive steps toward telling themselves why not and giving things their best shot. Doing this isn’t usually easy and requires a lot of practice, so they must really be determined to become positive thinkers. Fortunately, there is a lot of help and really good step-by-step instruction available through positive thinking programs that are readily accessible on the Internet.

We all want happiness. We all need appreciation. We all crave for recognition. We all want to be applauded. We all desire to be called as good and lovely human beings. We are all looking for this certificate from our friends, family and our partner. This makes us happy. This makes us feel good about ourselves. This gives us new confidence in ourselves. This all gives us a new and positive self esteem, which is very important.

How to get it? Let us do all this for others. If no one is praising us, let us praise others. Let us do all that we want others to do to us. Let us give love, affection, appreciation, and let us applaud others even for a very small victory. Will this help us? It helps us immediately.

The first feeling we get after doing a good deed is feeling of satisfaction. This raises our self esteem in our own eyes. This makes us feel good. By making others happy, we get happiness. So let us become proactive and get all we want by not asking for it, but giving it.

What will happen to others when they get such praise from us? They will feel very happy. They will be happy with us. They will like us even more. They will like to do something in return. They will do all that we have been wishing for. Send happiness to get happiness.

Happiness is a state of mind, when one feels contented with oneself, one feels cheerful with one’s life and circumstances. Remaining unhappy is not our goal in life, happiness is our goal. If we are not happy, life becomes a burden. Why not make happiness a part of everyday living?